Why marriages fail

According to the Center for Disease Control, as of November 2013, the marriage rate was 6.8 per 1000 total population with a divorce rate of 3.6. As you can see, the divorce rate is slightly less than 50% of the marriage rate. Why do marriages fail?

Let us examine why males and females want to marry. For males, they are taught to be providers who take care of their families. Most males are hurt emotionally by a female somewhere between puberty and young adulthood. Some believe the way to handle emotional trauma is to rush into permanent commitments before they are ready. This is bad! Relationships cannot be forced. One cannot trick oneself into being emotionally capable.

Females are raised to believe we become women when we marry and have children. From birth, it is drilled into our minds that we are no ones until we marry. Females tend to rush into relationships to avoid being alone and destined to become spinsters. If you do not marry, you will not be a spinster. Females should stop compromising and settling for something good enough right now. Males guilt trip females into dating them often. They say our standards are too high. Then they attempt to belittle us for having standards. “I don’t know why you won’t have sex with me. I’ve dated plenty of girls hotter than you.” My response, “that’s great! Why don’t you find one of them right now?”

If a man views you as eye candy, it is fair that you are able to also view him as eye candy. If a man likes you, because you are in shape, you deserve a man who is in shape. Basically, you deserve your equal. Stop settling. Respect yourself. Come to terms with being alone and appreciating yourself. Otherwise, you will never be happy in a relationship.

Being together does not mean one must marry. The most successful relationships I know do not involve marriage. People can be together happily without being married.